Since I’ve begun working as an intuitive teacher, I’ve noticed the idea of twin flames… a lot. Here’s what I wish people knew about twin flames (akin to the Western idea of soul mates).
1. Soul mates as we understand them do not exist.
Each soul has hundreds of soul mates. A soul mate is not the same as a twin flame. What I mean by this is I can have 400 souls out there that match my soul on multiple levels but they still will not be my twin flame. The 400 souls would be my soul mates, some male, some female and yes, you can feel extreme love and commitment for them but contrary to soul mates, there is only 1 twin flame for each soul. Soul mates can take the form of friends, family, or lovers. Unlike a soul mate, your twin flame matches your energy exactly. They are like you but different and nothing you or they do will ever sever this connection entirely. You are connected to your twin flame in a way that only you can be.
2. If you were ready for you twin flame, you’d already be with them.
Yes, you might meet them before you’re both ready but it won’t work out until both of you are ready. If you interact before then, it will be to help one another grow in a way that only twin flames can. For example, the person that is your twin flame is the one you keep running into at various points in your life and incites extreme, perhaps inexpiable feelings in you and you in them. You will always have a connection with your twin flame whether you want it or not. You might feel their emotions, see what they are experiencing, communicate in dreams or with telepathy, etc. Twin flames will want what is best for you no matter what. You may not be ready but they will wait. Likewise, your twin flame may not be ready for you yet because they are dealing with their soul issues and must handle those first but they are still drawn to you and maybe without even realizing it, you are waiting for them.
3. Many people get married and majority of them are not marrying their twin flame or even a soul mate.
Sometimes marriages are thinking and feeling human constructs that are ego driven and fueled by lust, and sometimes this shows itself in the form of divorces and past relationships. We must continue to learn and grow before ever potentially meeting our twin flame and relationships are a way to do this. I am not endorsing being in a relationship or marrying to grow as a soul. Did you create a relationship that was not meant to be created out of selfishness or loneliness? If so, it’s unfair to you, your partner, their twin flame, and your twin flame.
4. “But my twin flame is with someone else.”
You say, “But Danielle, my twin flame is with someone else. They don’t see me yet.” Maybe and maybe not. As humans we are so quick to declare something is ours even when it is not and a soul will never be a possession of another. Rid yourself of possessive thinking and practice unconditional love. Practice loving yourself unconditionally and extend that to your twin flame. If you don’t learn how to do this, you will never be ready for your twin flame. Love yourself unconditionally first before trying and failing to unconditionally love someone else. So many people are impatient and say they are ready for their twin now. No, you’re not. Life is about solving your own soul issues, not romance in movies. Going back to the hypothetical twin who is with someone else. They may be with someone else but they are looking for you without realizing it and that relationship they are in is just part of the journey to reunite with you. Once their spiritual eyes are open, they will see you. Sometimes this induces fear in a twin because the pull and the intensity of those feelings for the twin are so strong that the other twin doesn’t know what to do with it or how to handle it. This is not a reaction to you. This is the other twin’s reaction to themselves and oftentimes requires reprogramming. For the love of God, do not use the rationale that someone is your twin flame to break up a relationship or marriage. Don’t.
5. Twin flames require reprogramming so prepare to clean.
Reprogramming? Yes. You and your twin will inspire and cause one another to grow and become who you are supposed to be no matter what. This usually involves letting go of outdated beliefs that we learned earlier in life or were taught and if we haven’t already reprogrammed ourselves, guess what? Our twin will become the catalyst to encourage us to do so. This can involve letting go of restrictions and criteria (human constructs). You might want a twin with blue eyes at 6 foot tall but maybe your twin had blue eyes in the last life and you are remembering that. Maybe your twin has brown eyes. If you close yourself off from all those under 6 foot tall, you might actually cut yourself off from your twin. Again, twins are for a soul purpose, not a physical one. This could even involve letting go of your twin for his or her growth.
6. This is not a relay race so you better be patient.
Patience. Do not try to force your twin to be ready. You cannot do that. Go on with your life and continue to send unconditional love their way, and yes, even from a distance because what is best for your twin might be from a distance. Your twin may not come around in this life. Take a moment to think on that. Life and soul are not relay races. If it doesn’t work out for you to be together in this life, you will have another chance and another and another until you both get it right. You will be together in the end.
7. Your twin flame may not be alive.
Your twin may not exist on earth. He or she may exist in the afterlife. Let that sink in for a moment. It may not be in the highest good for soul growth for either of you to exist on earth during the same time in this life. That’s okay. You can have a full life, even romance or marry someone else, but they will never be your twin and deep down only your soul can answer if you are with your twin or not.
8. You’re whole, not half.
Your twin is not the other half of you. Sorry, Renee Zellweger. You are both two souls complete and whole on your own without the other. Stop this “you complete me” mess. If you are looking for someone to complete you, you’ve lost the entire point of soul growth on earth and the point of a twin flame. Even if you did meet your twin with this sort of thinking, you would hurt their soul growth which goes against what a twin is designed to do. Just go home.
9. Recognizing your twin flame is not what you think.
How do you expect to recognize your twin if you do encounter them on earth? Good question. You don’t… unless you focus on preparing for them. Those who have met and reached the happy finish line with their twin have at some point prepared for meeting them and recognizing them whether they realize that or not. Instead of fixating on physical traits, your ideal timing, etc. try asking yourself how you will feel when you are with your twin. Ask your soul what it will feel, not your mind. You might discover you already have that feeling or have felt that feeling and it will help identify your twin. If not, you will recognize it when you do. This takes practice. Get out of your head and go into your soul.
10. Pray for guidance.
God created your soul and your twin’s soul so the wisest thing you could possibly do is to ask God for wisdom to not only recognize your twin but to also prepare you and your twin for each other. God assigned you and your twin a greater purpose in life outside of being with each other. Think on that. Being with your twin flame is not the end-all-be-all of existence. If you don’t know your purpose in life, you need to seek God on that before you seek out your twin flame. And if you don’t have a relationship with God, how can you expect to have a deep soul connection with your twin flame?