Carl Jung– renowned psychotherapist and psychiatrist– popularized the concepts of introversion and extroversion as early as the 1920s and with it he identified a third group that would later be known as *drum roll, please* ambiverts. Little was known about ambiverts until the 1940s .
According to Oxford University Press, an ambivert is someone whose personality has a balance of extrovert and introvert features.
Not an introvert or an extrovert? Never fear. Social scientists now believe that ambiverts possess many personal and professional advantages and it’s because of our mad adaptation skills. Now that you know what an ambivert is, you might be wondering how one fits into the extrovert/introvert scale.
Extroverts energize externally. Introverts energize internally. To put it simply, an introvert who has had a horrific week would prefer to stay home with family or be alone and journal, watch a show, relax, etc. Extraverts are more likely to recharge their batteries by going to a concert or hiking with friends. Me? I do both and that is just one indication of being an ambivert.
I’ve always been outgoing but I am also introspective. As a child I was very much an extrovert. As I grew older I developed introvert traits. In certain situations, people may know me as an internal thinker and with others, I’m seen as the life of the party. The truth is, I like my alone time with my pets and sitting in my pajamas while reading but I’d go mad if that is all I did for days. I also like to go out with my friends and have crazy fun but going out night after night would drain me to no end. I can do both and I like to balance them out. Have I danced on a table before at a concert? Sure. Have I stayed home instead of going to a party I was invited to? Yes.
As an ambivert, I do what I feel is best for me.
One of the advantages of being an ambivert is we’re more in tune to listening to ourselves and our bodies, something extorverts and introverts may lack.
Being an ambivert, I listen to people as much as I converse with them.
Ambiverts generally have a wider range of skills and can connect with a plethora of people from all walks of life.
Essentially, we are perfect social butterflies with potential to be a great entrepreneurs. We let others lead and we know when to lead. The beauty of being an ambivert is the ability to handle multiple situations by analyzing and executing them.
We are the brains and the brawn.
We know when to push and we know when to withdraw, when to be assertive and when to listen to reason. Apparently, it’s what makes us likely to succeed in life. Sheer genius!
Here’s Some Advice for my Fellow Ambiverts:
- Don’t feel guilty for knowing your limits and recharging at home instead of at the bar with your friends.
- You don’t have to explain yourself to others.
- You do not need to feel bad for leaving your introverted friends at home and going out for the night.
- Do what you feel is best for you and what makes you happy.
Advice for Extroverts and Introverts When it Comes to Ambiverts:
- Don’t push us to go out.
- Don’t keep us held down at home.
- Be supportive of our choices because they really are what’s best for us.
- Do not annoy the living daylights out of us with your extremely extroverted self. There is extravert and then there is duct tape for your mouth.
- Do not bore us with your refusal to be adventurous. If we ask you to go with us, it means we want to share that experience with you. Continuous refusals may mean we withdraw from you.
- You may not understand us, but we understand you. Enjoy hot cocoa and a movie with us and enjoy running all over town with us in the driver’s seat. Let us give you a new perspective. Who knows, you may enjoy it.